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Telling him you’re pregnant: Wondering what he will say?

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You took the test and got the positive result. Now you’re faced with telling him you’re pregnant.

So, now what?

Do you tell him?
Them?
Friends?

Family?
Anyone? 

Do you start an online search with your friends, “Hey, Siri” or “Alexa?” 

So many things to think about with telling him you’re pregnant—so let’s chat about a few basics. 

Telling him you’re pregnant:

First, take a few minutes to process what is going on. Reach out when you are ready to begin telling him you’re pregnant. 

Whatever you decide about telling him you’re pregnant, or not—and when—is up to you. If you are in a healthy relationship, he will likely be more supportive than you think. His support may be of value to you. 

Next, is to confirm the pregnancy with a medical professional in person. 

Online searching for pregnancy symptoms and pregnancy test information will only get you so far. Likely, you will end up more stressed and confused. 

A medical verification of pregnancy will include an ultrasound by a trained Sonographer and medical professional. The ultrasound will be the best way to determine where the pregnancy has implanted, to confirm viability and to estimate how far along you are. All things you will need to know about your pregnancy. Care Net of Dickson provides this service, consider scheduling an appointment today!

What if he wants to come to the appointment? 

Once you’ve decided moving forward on telling him you’re pregnant—if you think you may want to bring him to the appointment with you, that is also your decision. 

If you choose to bring him, we will be there for him as well. We have support services for guys to make them feel comfortable, learn how to support you, as well as support them on their journey. So, whether you’re ready to tell him or not, we’re here for you. 

Wondering what he’ll say when you do decide to go forward with telling him you’re pregnant? 

You are not alone. Telling someone about a pregnancy can feel daunting, but this is just one step  in the journey of your life. 

According to the CDC and AmericanAdoptions.com, about half of all pregnancies in the U.S. each year are not expected. That means nearly two million women are trying to figure out what to say about an unexpected pregnancy each year.

Regardless of how he reacts when you move forward with telling him you’re pregnant, remember you are stronger than you think. You have so much in which to look forward. The opportunities in front of you are endless and your options are many. 

So, while sharing the news of an unexpected pregnancy can feel overwhelming, we’re here to let  you know that you can do this. You are strong. You are able to do hard things. And we are here to support you as you take your next steps.

If you are considering parenting, but you’re thinking you’re just not ready, we have some great news to share with you… Very few people ever feel ready to parent. Every woman on the planet has had the flood of emotions when finding out she’s pregnant.

Parenting Options

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If you are considering parenting, but you’re thinking you’re just not ready, we have some great news to share with you… Very few people ever feel ready to parent. Every woman on the planet has had the flood of emotions when finding out she’s pregnant.

Married or single, planned or not, parenting has a unique set of opportunities and challenges. Even in the most ideal situations, the thought of parenting can be overwhelming. So first, take a deep breath and realize you are not alone. You are not the first person feeling what you are feeling.

We hope to bring some truths to common myths and provide you with social services and general support to the difficulties you may be facing in this unexpected pregnancy.

First, there is not one type of family today. There are many family units and even more styles of parenting. There is much to explore as you consider your next steps in dealing with an unplanned pregnancy.

As society has evolved, the immediate thought when facing an unplanned pregnancy is not to simply rush and get married. Or run and hide “someplace” to have the baby in secret.

Did you know 50% of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned? There is a lot more grace surrounding this topic, and in many situations, an unplanned pregnancy does not have the same stigma it once did. The focus has shifted towards equipping women with resources to making decisions that are right for them.

Single parenting

Single parenting is when the primary responsibility of raising the child falls on one individual.  There are many single parents for a variety of reasons. No matter the reason, society has come a long way in its views on single parents, and there are many resources available to help single parents. There are so many classes, books, mentors, and thousands of blog posts out there to help you learn everything you need to know on the topic.

Finding a solid support system that can help navigate the days ahead is important for everyone but especially for someone who will be primarily a single parent. No one is expected nor should do this alone. Even the strongest of women will experience a moment they will need to reach out for help. As you make your birth plan, make a list of people, places, and resources available to you as you embrace single parenting. If you do not know where to start, our directory can guide you to classes, social services, and even places you can go for material assistance as well.  Check it out!

Co-parenting

Co-parenting is when the responsibility of raising the child is shared between the biological mother and father. Whenever possible this is a wonderful option for the child even if the couple does not decide to stay together. The parenting plan will include a schedule that is detailed in writing and should also include child support commitments. It is best to have these documents legally binding.

If your partner is unsafe or unhealthy, then seek help and assistance to ensure your health and safety. You may need to look towards parenting without them. However, if possible, including them in a healthy respectful way will be rewarding for the child as well as each parent. There are many resources, classes, blogs, and tips on how to successfully co-parent. Please check out our directory and find a resource near you!

Blended families, or stepfamilies

Blended families are very common today. They are when two individuals come together and one or both have children. Learning how to live together as one family unit can be a unique experience. The good news is the successful stories of blended families are plentiful! The resources to help both parents and the children navigate this successfully will be important.

What should you do?

  • Communicate with your partner about your child and their needs.
  • Communicate with your child the benefits of having “more people to love them” by adding additional members to the family.
  • Reinforce to the children that nothing changes in your love or attention for them.
  • Continue to invest into the biological parent child relationship so they don’t feel forgotten or overlooked. This will save you hours of time down the road trying to undo bad behavior that “seems to be coming from nowhere.”

Remember blended families offer an increase in the opportunity for love and security. They can be successfully done!

Nuclear families

A nuclear family is when both the biological mother and father are living in the same house raising their children and doing life together. Traditionally they are married, but not always. If a nuclear family is healthy, it can provide a consistent home environment, structure, increased focused on education, and a general overall increase in the economic stability of the home. This makes sense as there are two adults working together for a common goal with shared resources.

The number of nuclear families has been on a decline. Twenty years ago, 48% of families were a nuclear family. According to the most recent census that number has dropped to 40%. https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2020/estimates-families-living-arrangements.html

In closing

Although there are many benefits to a nuclear family, the best family for a child is the healthy family and it is possible for you to have a healthy family in all the options mentioned.

Whatever your situation is, parenting and family styles are unique to each person. You will be able to find many resources as you embark on this adventure of parenting. Reach out as you seek information on parenting and resources available to help you along the way!

We realize this pregnancy is likely unexpected, but you can do it.

Reach out. Do not do this alone.

Unpack all your options and find the solution right for you.

If the idea of parenting is still overwhelming to you even after learning about all the assistance available to you but you still want to see your child thrive, you may want to consider adoption. Whatever you choose, parenting and adoption are both great ways to see the life inside of you come to their fullest potential and be involved at the level that is right for you.

For more on adoptions read here.

Ever asked, "Why is my period late?" If so, there may be underlying medical conditions causing a change in menstrual cycles. It's best to consult with a medical professional.

Why Is My Period Late?

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We’ve all been there… That dreaded time of the month where all you want is your sweatpants, a bag of chocolate, and your couch. Then one day, you find yourself wondering when that awful week will come around again… As much as you hate it, you do need it to come… right? You don’t want to admit it but you’re late and you know what that could mean… but hold on, let’s not jump to conclusions just yet. There are a lot of variables that go into being late. So let’s take a step back and define what a period actually is, what the symptoms are, and what causes periods to be late, so we can navigate this together. Afterall, knowledge is power, and we want you to be equipped with the knowledge to take care of yourself and your needs.

Why is my period late, and what is a period, exactly?

A menstrual period is the shedding of the uterine lining that happens every month in a woman’s reproductive years. This process is controlled by hormones that regulate the menstrual cycle, which typically lasts between 21 to 35 days. During this time, the body goes through various changes that can cause physical and emotional symptoms. [1]

We know you know them… Some common period symptoms include cramps, bloating, fatigue, acne, headaches, mood swings, and breast tenderness. Of course, these symptoms vary from woman to woman and can be experienced in varying degrees. The more you know about period symptoms, the better equipped you’ll be to manage them and give your body what you need. [2]

How long do periods last?

The length of a period can vary from woman to woman, but they typically range from three to seven days. Some women experience periods that last longer or shorter than the average length. The factors that can affect the length of a period include age, stress levels, hormonal imbalances, and underlying medical conditions. [2]

For some women, a menstrual period can be a painful and uncomfortable experience, while others may hardly notice it. Regardless of the experience, it’s important to keep track of the duration of your period and any changes in your menstrual cycle.

Period tracking apps can be a helpful resource to predict when your period is supposed to come and they can be helpful to recognize any menstrual irregularities.

If you notice any irregularities, such as a period that lasts longer than usual, it’s best to consult with your healthcare provider. They can help determine if there are any underlying medical conditions that may be causing the change in your menstrual cycle.

Understanding how long a period lasts and what is normal for your body can help you take good care of yourself and maintain good reproductive health.

So what are the causes of a late period?

A late period is defined as a period that is delayed by more than 5 days. Late periods can be caused by a variety of factors, including stress, changes in weight or exercise, hormonal imbalances, and certain medical conditions such as PCOS.

Additionally, some medications such as birth control pills can also cause a delay in periods. If you are taking any medication, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider about any potential side effects. [3]

If your period is consistently late or irregular, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider to determine the underlying cause and receive appropriate treatment.

Stress and its impact on periods

Stress can have a significant impact on menstrual cycles and may cause missed or late periods. This is because stress can affect the hormonal balance in the body, which can disrupt the menstrual cycle.

If you are experiencing stress, it is important to find healthy ways to manage it, such as exercise, meditation, or talking to a therapist. Reducing stress can help regulate your menstrual cycle and improve your overall health.[3]

If you are consistently experiencing stress and it is impacting your daily life, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider to receive appropriate treatment.

Changes in weight and exercise

Changes in weight and exercise can also impact menstrual cycles. Rapid weight loss or gain, as well as excessive exercise, can disrupt the hormonal balance in the body, leading to missed or late periods.

If you have experienced significant weight loss or gain, or have changed your exercise routine, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider to determine the impact on your menstrual cycle and receive appropriate treatment.

It is important to maintain a healthy weight and exercise routine to ensure proper menstrual health. [3]

Hormonal imbalances and their impact on periods

Hormonal imbalances can impact menstrual cycles and may cause missed or late periods. This is because hormones play a key role in regulating the menstrual cycle.

If you have a hormonal imbalance such as PCOS, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider to receive appropriate treatment. Treatment may include medication or lifestyle changes to regulate the menstrual cycle. [1]

Medical conditions and their impact on periods

Certain medical conditions such as thyroid disorders or uterine fibroids can also impact menstrual cycles and may cause missed or late periods.

If you have a medical condition that is impacting your menstrual cycle, it is important to talk to your healthcare provider to receive appropriate treatment.

Treatment may include medication, surgery, or other interventions to manage the underlying condition and regulate the menstrual cycle. [1]

So could it be pregnancy?

For many women, the most common reason for a late or missed period is pregnancy. If you’ve had sex recently and missed your period, taking a pregnancy test is an important next step.

Searching online and talking to your friends can only get you so far. A medical verification of pregnancy is important to determine whether or not you’re pregnant. That’s why Care Net offers free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds, so you can get the answers you need.

For more information on what services Care Net offers, give us a call today. We’re here for you!

Sources:

  1. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/womens-health/in-depth/menstrual-cycle/art-20047186
  2. https://www.webmd.com/women/pms/signs-your-period-is-coming
  3. https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/why-is-my-period-late